Both parties eventually apologised. One later in the night, the other a year later (the only time I have ever had a one-to-one conversation with her). I didn't forgive them verbally since it would have been acknowledging that they had guessed correctly it was me. In each case I couldn't help but kiss them on the forehead as a token of forgiveness. The apologies were sincere and remorseful and human - I am a sucker for people that reveal their humanity.